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I am really bad about being sarcastic. The witty, put down seems to jump into my brain all the time. My aim is to be funny. Unfortunately, sarcasm can be easily misunderstood and hurtful. It is often used to poke fun at a person who is not present. This is not good. It is something I want to change about myself.
the use of words that mean the opposite of what you really want to say especially in order to insult someone, to show irritation, or to be funny.
a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual
If you do some web searches, you can find all kinds of articles about the benefits of sarcasm. Here are a couple of examples.
- Scientific Benefits of Sarcasm
- Sarcasm is Good for Creativity
- Circle of Sarcasm: What You Need To Know?
But, sarcasm can be really funny
Yes, it can. It can also be hurtful. Need to find better ways to express humor without being sarcastic. I tend to have a similar opinion about comics whose routine is loaded with profanity. It seems like a crutch to use vulgarity to get a laugh. Being funny without cursing shows more talent. Same way with sarcasm. I don't want to fill my brain with that stuff. So, no watching sarcastic pundits and profane comics.
Sarcasm means you're smart
Studies show that sarcastic people tend to be smart, creative, abstract thinkers. But when you are dealing with another person, you sacrifice empathy and patience just to show off your intelligence. Sarcasm may be a sign of intelligence, but it is not a sign of wisdom.
Sarcasm may be covering up other issues
I'm more likely to be sarcastic when I'm tired or don't feel well. It can also be a clue that I'm upset or angry about something. It's a way to get attention, kind of like the class clown.On the job, it can express unhappiness about work and could be a sign that if you can't fix the job, it's time to look for a new one.
Looking to the Bible for guidance
I wanted to see what the Bible advises about this. Here are some scriptures that help.
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. - Ephesians 4:29
Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. - Ephesians 5:4 ESV
A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. - Luke 6:45
Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. - Colossians 4:6
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. - Proverbs 12:18 ESV
Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death is the man who deceives his neighbor and says, “I am only joking!” - Proverbs:18-19 ESV
But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil. - Matthew 5:37
Controlling sarcasm may not be a popular opinion. But, I think being a better listener and better spoken, less caustic in conversation is the desired option.